Due to the rise in Casual Relationships/Sex over the past 40 years, higher levels of trust are a pre-requisite to investing in long-term relationships.
Researchers have found the utility of abusing trust is higher than honoring it (van de Rijt & Buskens, 2006). Moreover, the utility of no trust is higher than abusing trust!
This game of “Trust” is not necessarily one of rationality, though is certain instances rational behaviors can lead to “sub-optimal” results when the trustor feels their efforts are not being abused.
2 types of goals are pursued in relationships:
1. Transactional Goals: Sex or Favors
2. Relational Goals: Love, Growth, Unity or Contribution
So how does one decide to invest in “Trust” to commit to a long-term relationship?
1. The trustor believes their partner to be relational-goal oriented
2. A persons own interest in marriage and its potential gains
3. Weigh the possibility of potential losses of the investment if the other partner eventually chooses to not commit
The Outcome: Decisions to commit are acted upon in one’s focus of potential gains in the marriage as well as a decrease in their belief of major losses in trust and fidelity.
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Arnout van de Rijt and Vincent Buskens – Trust in Intimate Relationships: The Increased Importance of Embeddedness for Marriage in the United States. Rationality and Society, May 2006; vol. 18, 2: pp. 123-156.