Trust

Dating and Marriage: Is Trust at Risk in your Intimate Relationships?

Due to the rise in Casual Relationships/Sex over the past 40 years, higher levels of trust are a pre-requisite to investing in long-term relationships.

Researchers have found the utility of abusing trust is higher than honoring it (van de Rijt & Buskens, 2006). Moreover, the utility of no trust is higher than abusing trust!

This game of “Trust” is not necessarily one of rationality, though is certain instances rational behaviors can lead to “sub-optimal” results when the trustor feels their efforts are not being abused.

2 types of goals are pursued in relationships:
1. Transactional Goals: Sex or Favors
2. Relational Goals: Love, Growth, Unity or Contribution

So how does one decide to invest in “Trust” to commit to a long-term relationship?
1. The trustor believes their partner to be relational-goal oriented
2. A persons own interest in marriage and its potential gains
3. Weigh the possibility of potential losses of the investment if the other partner eventually chooses to not commit

The Outcome: Decisions to commit are acted upon in one’s focus of potential gains in the marriage as well as a decrease in their belief of major losses in trust and fidelity.

Call or email for your Complimentary 30 Minute Trust and Intimacy Consultation at 661.524.6093 or Info@HowardCramptonJr.com

Cheers,
Howard
www.howardcramptonjr.com

Reference:
Arnout van de Rijt and Vincent Buskens – Trust in Intimate Relationships: The Increased Importance of Embeddedness for Marriage in the United States. Rationality and Society, May 2006; vol. 18, 2: pp. 123-156.

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Contributing Emotional Deposits to Others Accounts

Stephen Covey speaks of making withdraws and deposits into the emotional bank accounts of those to which we connect with – have relationships with. This concept helps to either build trust, or destroy it.

Here I discuss how we can make more deposits and how we may be unaware of the withdraws as well.

If you’d like to learn more about the relationships in your life and how to make more deposits email me for a complimentary consultation at info@HowardCramptonJr.com or call 661.524.6093

Cheers,
Howard

P.S. Please leave your comments below. Feel free to share how you make deposits into your relationships, and even share how you may have made withdraws in the past…

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